Happy 51st Wedding Anniversary to My Parents

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My chest is heavy, but my heart is full of knowing that today would've been your 51st wedding anniversary. 

It is your 51st wedding anniversary, an anniversary that you were celebrating alone for the second year in a row.  The life you built and the love that you maintained through hard times, and good times are evident in the lives of your children, your grandchildren, and your great-grandchildren. However, those who have been affected by the two of you and your choice to love and to be committed far surpass my own understanding. 

Mom, I want to say I'm sorry he's not here to celebrate with you. I want to say I'm sorry we're not having a huge bash in honor of the two of you. I want to say I'm sorry there's no party with dancing, photos, music, and décor that you picked out specifically for the event.  I want to say I'm sorry that our family is not gathering today. I do not understand what you were going through, what you've gone through, or how you maintain the courage to be the amazing woman you are every single day, but I can thank you. 

Thank you for teaching me resilience, thank you for teaching me love, thank you for teaching me to turn my eyes back to Jesus every day. Thank you for showing me marriage should be fun, filled with adventures, laughing, mourning, and taking care of one another. Thank you for teaching me that the rules of marriage are what we make them, and we do not need to follow what society says a man or a woman should do inside that marriage. The two of you fought to be better people every year and taught your children to be educated, brave, courageous, loving, and to love our spouses with everything we have.

Happy 51st Wedding Anniversary 

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