Cry Baby

 The only way to get it out is to cry. 

Years ago, I was attacked at work. As I was walking to my car in the parking lot, which was mostly empty, a car ran up on me. What proceeded felt and still feels like a crazy event. My life and future were in danger, and more than anything that day, my feelings of safety broke. Afterward, I went to therapy. I think if you’re a human, therapy is one of the greatest opportunities for us to get experience. Tragedy or no tragedy, the lessons we learn from quality specialists are incredible. This lady was nothing but special, and she pulled me out of the darkness and brought me back to see the light that was in me and around me. One key piece of wisdom I have held tight is that she told me the only way to get trauma out of the body is by releasing it. How? Through tears, sweat, or pee. I could pee it out by drinking lots of things, I could cry it out, or I could sweat it out. She encouraged me to do all the above, and I did.

 

I’m naturally a crier; when I’m happy, I cry; when I’m sad, I cry, but lately, I felt like holding all the tears in. I don’t want it to be real. I don’t wanna say things out loud, ask for prayers, or even share what is truly on my heart in a verbal way. Somehow this (Blogging) is safe; I’m just writing words on a piece of paper, typing is silent, and maybe no one‘s reading them, but at least I’m getting them out of my head. If you have ever heard me speak on leadership, then you know my passion is journaling. In my faith, job, and desire to be a better leader, coach, consultant, and human. However, tears seem to seep in a while, and the words flow out. I just don’t know what they mean. Am I scared? I think I am. Am I excited that this is going to happen with the potential of relief? Yes, and I feel guilty for that. Am I nervous for me and my family? Absolutely. Do I trust God and have peace throughout all this? Without a doubt. 


We volunteer as greeters at our church. It is probably the best job there is as a volunteer. You get to see all these amazing people come in from their busy, troubled, stressful, and beautiful lives and welcome them to the safe zone. You see troubles fall off their face; peace overcome them. The opposite is true when they leave. You see them full of peace, facing their lives again. Work out how to take in the advice, wisdom, and love they just learned about and work it into the ebbs and flows of their own world. A few Sundays ago, I watched as the music pastor walked a man out the doors and was quietly talking to him about releasing his tears. Both these men are large in stature, and to hear him tell him, "joy and pain flow out of us both in tears." WOW. It was beautiful. I have no idea if this man was in a moment of joy or a moment of pain, but there are plenty of times I feel as if I am in both. Fear and Relief, Joy and Pain, Silence and Screaming are not contradictions but partners. My only goal is to continue to lean on the Holy Spirit as the Comforter that was sent to me.


'Yet a little while, and the world seeth me no more; but ye see me: because I live, ye shall live also. even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him: but ye know him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be in you. And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever;'

John 14:16-17,19

https://my.bible.com/bible/1/JHN.14.16-17,19

Lean on Jesus. Lean on friends. Lean on Family. Find your people and lean on them. Being in-person, face to face, over the phone talking, not just text, there is something magical, vulnerable, and powerful to be surrounded by people who have your heart and not just your back.


Prayers for us all.

Be Vulnerable. Be Real. Be Love. Be Honest. Be Humble. Be Loved. Be True. Welcome the Comforter into your life.




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